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Toys my Toddler Loves {And Yours Will Too!}

Fri, 08 Jan 2021 09:00:48 GMT

I cannot believe my little baby is almost 2 years old.

June is more active than ever before and super involved with toys and playtime. She’s started playing make believe with her tea sets and kitchen, loves jamming out on her new piano and adores her new slide. I have a few friends who recently asked me for new toy recommendations so I thought it’d be handy to put together a list for my fellow parent’s.

Feature image by Kim Genevieve for Mini Magazine

Colors & Shapes Eggs

My mom got June this for Christmas and she is so obsessed. It’s been great at helping to teach June her colors too! She has learned “purple” “verde” and “yellow!” Click here

Bubble Lawn Mower

I don’t know what it is about this thing but every kid that comes over to play is equally obsessed with this bubble making machine.

Roller Coaster

June love, loves her rollercoaster toy. I’m not gonna lie, it takes up a ton of space but it’s so worth it for endless hours of playtime.

Sidewalk Chalk

It’s the simplest, easiest toy and it can easily be taken anywhere. We draw circles and pathways on our sidewalk and June loves jumping from one to another and playing “follow the leader” inside the lines. Click here for chalk

Baby Shark ABC Toy

What can I say? Anything that plays music and involves baby shark and June is going to be a big fan. Click here

Building Blocks

An oldie but goodie toy that we’ve had for quite some time. June loves pouring out the blocks just as much as she loves building structures with them.

Color Sorting and Counting

This isn’t the exact version we have but the closest I could find. It has truly helped June with learning how to sort and count. I cannot recommend it enough!!

Peg Stacking Toy

Grant scored this toy a while ago and it’s one that we keep by the kitchen table for restlessness during meal times. June absolutely loves stacking up the towers and pushing them down.

Push Car

Saving the best for last. I swore I wasn’t going to be the mom that got one of these cheesy push cars, but June LOVES it. We actually keep ours in the house and push her all over. It’s fun!

What are some toys that your toddler loves? Please leave a comment below!

Are Resolutions Relevant? How We Are Giving Back in 2021

Thu, 31 Dec 2020 22:50:09 GMT

I do it every single year.

I get my notebook and sit down to make the grand list of New Year’s Resolutions. My list usually consists of things like “play more piano” or “travel to a new country” and “do the kitchen renovation.” Some of those things are meaningful and some I was actually able to accomplish in 2020. However, those are not the types of resolutions I am jotting down in my notebook as I head into 2021.

If I learned anything in 2020, it’s that I have very little to zero control over things that are outside of my control. That sounds silly to say, but what I mean is that I can only have control over my own happiness and my own family. I cannot control things like illness, airline schedules, shut downs, rainy days, beautiful days, other people’s opinion of me and my family or even the way my messages are received in this world. And when I cannot control many outside factors, it can be quite difficult to downright impossible to achieve goals, work on personal projects and meet the added pressure to “improve” thy self.

While I truly see how resolutions can feel very counterproductive during troubling times and during a very difficult year, I am choosing to continue with my annual tradition in creating them.

However, this year I’m doing things a bit differently.

Rather than sitting down to check off a list of accomplishments from the year prior, or setting some sort of goals that circulate around change or improvements to myself, I’m adding a bit of compassion and grace to my “resolutions.” There will be no pressure or list of goals to achieve. In fact, I’m very much letting myself off the hook from really having any goals in the next year.

My list, which you can find at the bottom of this email, is more of a “begin as you mean to go” list. They are things that I have already started to do and implement in my life over the last year. The way I see it, this list is fairly easy for me to continue to work on because I’ve already starting doing the “work” (doesn’t feel like work at all).

My List of Resolutions for 2021

Worry and stress less – Last year, I allowed things to really stress me out far more than I should have allowed. Sometimes there are things that are completely outside of your control. Stressing about them will not alter the outcome nor add any value to your life. I started watching the news less. I figure if there is something that I really, really “need” to know then someone will tell me about it.

Get my Health in Check – I have actually already begun to do this by getting my very first mammogram a few weeks ago (check, check!). I also saw my first Orthopedic specialist for a neck injury and got my hormones checked by a hormone specialist who put me on a variety of supplements. Often times I put off or avoid going to doctors, dentists and getting things checked in on unless something is “wrong.” My goal by the end of the year is to be up to date on all of my check-ups.

Be the Best Mom I can be for June <3

Find More Meaning in my Work – Thanks to every single one of you, my amazing and supportive readers and friends, we were able to offer contributions and support to those in need during 2020. With every purchase, click, like or comment that is made on my blog and social media channels, I either earn money through commissions plus it increases the value of my brand which allows me to make an income. As a result, this year we were able to give back more than ever before. Just after Covid-19 hit the US, we began increasing our charitable outreach by donating 50% of our proceeds to Baby2Baby for the first 3 months of the year. We also started a GoFundMe for my dear friend, Amanda Kloots, where you all helped raise funds to support her and her family. As the year went on, we expanded to help support different organizations and strengthened the amount of monthly donations we make to them. We also ran several giveaways through my social media channels to support giving back to those in need and shed light to small businesses. We also collaborated on an exclusive necklace with Retrouvai that donated 100% of the proceeds back to The Love Land Foundation. Let’s not forget 1212, the baby clothing brand that I am a Creative Director for and the incredibly generous donations we offer year-round. With each purchase you make, a donation is made back to Baby2Baby.

I am so proud of this work, because without adding this meaningful element, I simply do not know what my “WHY” would be. I also think it is so important to celebrate these amazing contributions because they would not be possible without your readership, loyalty, comments, purchases made through my blog and YOUR SUPPORT. I cannot thank you enough. As the New Year begins, I want to assure you all that we will continue to do our best work so that we can continue to support those in need.

A Letter for June from 2020

Mon, 28 Dec 2020 09:00:56 GMT

My dear June, What can I say about 2020?

I remember writing to you 7 months ago when I was feeling blue, yet also hopeful that this mess would end soon. So much has happened since then. We’ve lost friends. We have stayed indoors, panicked over how many paper towels to buy, missed vacations and longed to see family and friends who live in Texas. We have worried, stressed and learned. We’ve struggled, mentally and physically, as the price of this pandemic has taken its extreme toll on everyone.

As the world introduces a vaccine for Covid-19, I would be lying if I said I feel the end is in sight. Sadly, I believe the dark cloud of Covid-19 will continue to hover over the world for a little while longer. But, as the year comes to a close, I have been reflecting and trying to make sense of it all.

A lot of people say that 20/20 was the year for clear vision. Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche, a famous Buddhist meditation master, said “We cannot change the way the world is, but by opening ourselves to the world as it is, we may find that gentleness, decency and bravery are available – not only to us, but to all human beings.” That is what this year was about for me.

There have been so many learning curves and challenges with 2020, but there has also been an incredible amount of growth. In the beginning of 2020 I resisted it all. I fought against the idea of sitting still, listening, practicing patience and learning time and time again to readjust goals, readjust plans and readjust my outlook on life. I hated sitting still and having to listen to the inner workings of my anxious mind going around and round through different scenarios, plans, fears and ideas. But the more I was literally forced to sit still, the better I got at it. And while a lot of these transformations continue to happen behind the scenes, I feel like a better person exiting this year than when I started it.

I simply would not have made it through 2020 in one piece if it weren’t for you and your incredible dad, always making me laugh along the way. The more we sat still, in our home together, the more I saw your smile, heard your laugh and saw your beautiful blue eyes light up at the simple things like your dad hiding behind a door or jumping on the bed. If I was having a bad day, your dad would pick up the slack. If he woke up feeling down, I would add pep in my step to cheer up the house. We all took turns, lifting each other up and while your dad and I had our back and forth struggles, there was one thing that was a constant.

Through the darkest days of 2020 you were always there, shining your bright light stronger than ever.

You were the literal glue that held us together this year. With your amazing positive energy, constant smiles and unconditional love, we made it through. And I realize that you are not even 2 years old at the time that this letter is being written, but it’s the truth.

You are my light, my bright Christmas star and I feel so incredibly lucky to be your mom.

I love you, Mom

Merry Christmas

Fri, 25 Dec 2020 09:00:03 GMT

From our family to yours, we wish you a very Merry Christmas.

At Home Workouts Worth Investing In

Mon, 21 Dec 2020 18:13:56 GMT

2020, the year at at home workouts.

Sadly, I don’t think this trend is going anywhere soon. Luckily, there is a plethora of at home workout regimes that can keep you feeling fit and that fun to do.

Working out this past year has been all about keeping my mental health game strong.

It’s truly been my outlet for blowing off steam, feeling connected to my mind and body and most importantly, it’s been the best natural treatment for fighting off depression.

I’m rounding up a list of my favorites from the year and workout plans that I swear by below along with equipment I have and love for any at home workouts.

First thing is first, my gear. It’s very important to have the correct work out gear at home to get your workout done. Otherwise, you will find any excuse to not work out and this will be your #1. Here are a few things I have tucked neatly in a basket for my at home workouts:

Bala Weights // AK! Jump Rope // Extra Thick Yoga Mat // Workout Sliders and Resistance Bands // Stability Ball // Magic Circle

Pilates by Amanda

I have been doing Pilates by Amanda 1-3 times a week for the past year and have 100% seen the biggest change in my body. I was so upset when stay at home orders went into place in Los Angeles, but her at home workouts are honestly just as good as the in person. // Sign up here

Amanda Kloots

Whether it’s her phone number workouts on IG or her jump rope motivational moves, I am the biggest fan of all things Amanda Kloots. Her positive energy is infectious and any time I’m looking to boost endorphins and get my body moving quickly, I’ll tune into one of her amazing workouts and get to sweating instantly. // Sign up here

Sweat App

This is workout app that I go back to time and time again. It’s a really great app for beginners who are looking to dip their sneakers in a manageable workout. It was the first thing I did post pregnancy. You don’t need any equipment! // Sign up here

Sculpt Society

Another one of my all time favorites is by Megan and called Sculpt Society. Her dance cardio and sculpting workouts always get me sweating quickly and I feel so great after a work out! I love how quick and easy you can jump into her workouts with little to no equipment needed. // Sign up here

Favorite Workout Clothes: Beyond Yoga Pants // Wunder Train High Rise Leggings // ON Sneakers // My favorite Nike Sports bra // IVL Tank

Online Shops That Give Back To Charity

Tue, 01 Dec 2020 09:00:50 GMT

Even though we can’t volunteer in person this year, there are so many ways we can keep giving back this “Giving Tuesday” to those in need this holiday season.

Last year, we took the 1212 team (I’m the Creative Director for this organic baby brand) over to the Baby2Baby headquarters and compiled gift bags for parents in need. I absolutely love this organization and proud to say that all purchases made on 1212 give back to Baby2Baby.

Sometimes giving back to others can be as easy as doing your own holiday shopping.

While yes, donations directly to organizations in need is always appreciated, I wanted to get a little creative in finding a way to hopefully help save you money while also giving back!

1212 – A 100% organic, sustainable baby brand that I just so happen to be the Creative Director for. I love how snuggly soft this clothing is and we have some amazing gift Sets that are perfect for the holiday season.

AUrate – This sick jewelry is sustainably made and charitable! They donate a book for every piece of jewelry purchased.

Toms – Remember Toms, the brand that donates a pair of shoes for each pair purchased? They have seriously expanded their assortment. I am loving their slippers {especially this pair}!

DIFF – Such cool and affordable sunglasses that not only donates glasses to those in need, but also provides eye exams, eye surgery and medication.

Ten Thousand Villages – This shop supports artisans from villages across the world, as their aim is to stop the cycle of poverty. I think their handmade stocking stuffers are especially cute.

Lemlem – I have been a fan of Lemlem for quite some time. The brand employs African women, providing a way out of poverty, and focuses on women’s access to healthcare.

The Honest Company – Your money funds the distribution of safe products to those in need. They have donated well over 20 million products {like diapers} since 2012. Wow.

STATE Bags – Have you heard of them? They make THE BEST backpacks. EVER. So durable and chic and for every one purchased, a backpack full of school supplies is donated.

Parachute – I love Parachute bedding. And I love them even more now that I know they donate their returned bedding to Habitat for Humanity.

Do you know of any brands that give back? We would love to hear in the comments below!

Life With a 21 Month Old Toddler

Mon, 23 Nov 2020 09:00:24 GMT

“No, No No!”

I spend most of my nights on Google, trying to find ways to break June from only saying her new favorite word, which is “No!” I also do endless hours of research about things like “how to get a toddler in her car seat without her screaming bloody murder” and “how to get my toddler to put on shoes without sounding like I am killing her.”

It’s not that I don’t want her to say “no,” I just would really love it if she would use the other words that she knows, like “Yes” “Ball” and “More please!”

Although, all of these things do make me laugh and love her all the more. We are crazy obsessed with June and this is such a fun age. She is walking, talking and full blown crazy with energy, personality and determination. It’s quite amazing to see her coming into her own (strong) personality.

Outside of an ear infection (argh) and a mild cold this month, which caused a few weeks of restless sleep, June is doing amazingly well (thankfully!). Our only concern right now is that she gets a bit bored, poor girl.

Scroll down to read more new updates from our life with a 21 month old little girl.

Mama or Dada?

June definitely has a daily preference and sometimes it can be a bit heartbreaking. When June first starting screaming in pain because of her ear infection she wanted “Mama” (one point for me) and then when we got to the hospital she wanted “Dada” (one point for Grant). It’s been a tough learning lesson to not take this too personally. June just really wants to have a say in everything right now. Whenever I feel a little jealous I quickly remind myself how lucky we all are to have both Mama an Dada and that she loves us both .

Let There Be Sleep!

Once we made it past the 18 month sleep regression (that was killer) and the sleepless nights due to sickness, June is officially a pro at sleeping. We were really lucky that she’s always been a great sleeper, but we no longer have to pull out any tricks to get her back down. We have such a great rhythm and groove with each other that it is so much easier than before {hope I’m not jinxing us!}.

June Loves Stickers

Recently, June became obsessed with toys that take a bit more time to figure out. She is obsessed with stickers, coloring and puzzles that she has to figure out how to put together. She gets a bit frustrated if she can’t figure it out, so we try and step in to help guide her before she has a full meltdown out of frustration.

Don’t Mock Me!

You guys, June is mocking me. Okay so not in a snarky way but she is mimicking me! I am terrified (haha). I knew this day was coming but I honestly thought I had more time to beat all of my old habits out of myself. For example, the other day I got really frustrated with the oven and let out a “Uggggh!” and then June repeated it!!! I about died. Grant and I try not to make a big deal when she repeats us but we are definitely watching what we say and do around June a lot more than we used to!

Do you have a toddler? Are you a parent? Have any pro tips or updates to share? Leave them in the comments below!

6 Things To Do If You’re Alone This Holiday

Wed, 18 Nov 2020 09:00:33 GMT

We are entering un-chartered territory.

Due to Covid-19, a lot of people are not able to be with their loved ones this year and are having to spend the holidays unlike any other – alone.

Don’t panic.

When I took an Instagram poll recently asking for blog post requests, I received a large amount of people asking what to do this year if they were spending the holidays alone. Listen, I would be lying if I said I am in your same shoes. I’ll be with Grant and June {not sure what we’re doing yet} but I do feel for you, which is why I did a lot of research and wanted to put this post together for those of you who will be solo. The very last thing I want for any of you {yes, you} is to feel lonely this holiday season.

Please remember that you are not alone even though you physically feel alone. The world is going through this together.

Here are a few tips that I hope you will find helpful!

Plan, Plan, Plan

Even if you have no plans, make a plan. There’s nothing worse than waking up on Christmas morning to an empty home with empty plans. Even if it means making your own 4-course breakfast, talking a walk to a nearby park or volunteering – just do something! Make a list, check it twice and even make an itemized agenda for the day:

8am: Wake up and cook huge breakfast

10am: FaceTime family

1pm: Watch “Elf” in bed wearing pajamas

3:30pm: Star to prep dinner

4pm: Have a good cry {it’s ok to let it out}

5pm: Open a really nice bottle of red wine etc, etc, etc…

You Do You

This is the best day possible that you can fully treat yourself to doing anything and everything just for: YOU! Have a spa day at home, take a mini road-trip and check into a hotel if you can. Spend time reading, reflecting, relaxing and being selfish.

Reach Out

A lot of people are going to be on lock down this holiday so be proactive in reaching out to friend’s to see what their plans are. Map out a “Friendsgiving” even if it isn’t on the exact Thanksgiving holiday or host a White Elephant Gift exchange.

Stop Creating Drama

And by drama, I mean stop putting “the holidays” up on some sort of pedestal like they’re supposed to be this amazingly perfect, beautiful time of the year. I am saying this with my tough love Jacey tone. Yes, the holidays are a wonderful time to connect with family but that doesn’t mean they HAVE to be just about that. There’s this idea that the holidays are supposed to be perfect and when they aren’t we immediately turn inwards and ask “what’s wrong with me?” If you really break it down, November and December are just months on a calendar. Try your best not to mythicize it all.

Just Get Through the Day

Does it suck? Yes. Just try your best to get through it and remember that it’s just another day. Time marches on and I promise you {I guarantee you} that your pain and grief over missing the holidays with your loved ones will not last forever.

Volunteer

If you can, try to find a soup kitchen or charitable organization that is accepting volunteers this holiday season. This will take some proactive advanced planning due to Covid restrictions but the work will be worth it.

Sending you all of my love and smiles this year. I know it’s a rough one.

How are you getting through?

Great Gifts for Jetsetter Who Isn’t Traveling

Mon, 16 Nov 2020 17:03:16 GMT

It’s safe to say that all of our travel junkie friends have had a rough year {present party included}.

After all, we’ve been grounded for nearly 12 months due to Covid-19 restrictions which hasn’t felt as glitz and glamorous as the usual flight to NY or Paris here and there. Needless to say, there are many of us who are longing for a flight to anywhere at this point, but are also playing it extra safe and staying home during this pandemic.

But that doesn’t mean you can’t gift your family and friends a little something that will help them reminisce. Here are a few favorites for those people in your life who love to travel.

Robert Macfarlane Talk About Travel

For lovers of travel and reading. A collection of beautifully written essays.

$17

Crosley Retro on the Road

I absolutely love the look of this and think it would be an excellent gift for anyone who enjoys music or travel.

$99

Homelle Steam Team

Want to get someone a practical gift? Maybe someone who travels for work? It's handy, tiny and packs well, and can be used now too!

$40

Castaway Hammocks Heaven on Earth

Encourage a trip to their own backyard. This hammock plus a good book sounds pretty heavenly if you ask me.

$80

Sass & Bell Cute and Kitchy

And also inspiring! Think about how much money the recipient is saving by not traveling this year. Hopefully this will inspire the many trips to come.

$10

Maps International Map It!

Love how this is scratch off. It makes for a fun project for now and the future!

$24

Herschel All the Essentials

I seriously adore this cute little travel kit and it's at a great price point.

$22

Air Selfie Flying Photographs

When the travel lover can finally get back to it, they will be very ready with all this time they have to practice!

$120

Portillo's Favorite Food

Send them food from their favorite city. Maybe they'll give you a taste too if you're lucky.

$70

Greenline Goods Pass the Glass

Do they have a favorite city? Get them a glass to match.

$15

Rolf Potts What a Wonderful World

This will be sure to inspire all the travel possibilities to come.

$15

Dagne Dover Closet Staple

A black travel bag is most certainly a classic piece for anyone.

$155

Slip Bask in the Mask

This little taste of luxury will surely please you chicest of friends.

$50

Lastly, I love the idea of getting them inspired to start brainstorming their next trip with an Airbnb Gift Card. It’s also just so fun to look at different Airbnbs all across the world, so it’ll give them a great quarantine activity!

How Do You Get Out of a Funk?

Wed, 07 Oct 2020 08:00:05 GMT

This is sadly a question I’ve been getting a lot lately.

I have to be honest, I’ve had a lot of down in the dumps days this year {who hasn’t!?}. Feeling low doesn’t always have to mean that you are clinically depressed. I also have to be honest and say that I disagree with the “pull up your bootstraps” method.

Sometimes you can just feel down, and that is okay!

It is absolutely vital to take care of your mind this year. There is an incredible amount of “noise” in the world right now so it is especially difficult to get in tune with your own thoughts and calm your mind. Please note that I am not a medical expert and you should consult your doctor if you are having any suicidal thoughts or ideas. You can also call the The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

Here are a few things that I do to try and get out of a rut:

Quiet Your Inner Voice

I don’t know about you, but when I’m having an off day my inner voice turns to a very negative place. You should hear the awful things I tell myself inside of my head. Whenever you are feeling a little bit off, be especially conscious of what your inner voice is saying to you.

Set a timer for 1 minute and turn off all distractions.
Get a piece of paper and a pen and let all of your rage out on to that piece of paper. Whatever you may be feeling, just draw it out. It can be words, phrases, a lengthy journal entry or simple sribbly lines – just let it all out.
Once the timer goes off take your piece of paper and either light it on fire (in a safe place) or tear it up into the smallest pieces you can and thrown it away.
Let that shit go!

Get Outside

It’s amazing what a little fresh air can do for the mind, body and soul. Try setting your alarm an hour earlier this week and get outside. Take a walk, go for a run, or simply sit in nature.

Make A Bucket List

No, I don’t mean a master bucket list of things you want to do in the big game of life. I mean a small, simple list of things you want to do by the end of the week. The easier, smaller things you put on the list, the better. For example:

Cook pizza one night from scratch
Call my grandmother
Send someone a home-made card
Create a new Pinterest board

Clean Your House

This might sound simple but if you have a cluttered home you will have a cluttered mind. Any time my mind is feeling a bit jumbled up I not only clean my house but I open up all of the windows, light some sage and candles and literally say out loud “new, fresh, energy!”

Pay Attention To Your Clothes

This seems very, very trivial but this is a fashion blog after all! If you are wearing your pajamas 24/7 these days {which a lot of us are, no judgement} then you might feel a little sloppy on the inside too. Try getting dressed one day and maybe even toss on a little make-up to see if that affects your mood at all.

How do you get out of a funk? I’d love to hear your tips and tricks!

10 Small Ways to Make a Big Change for the Climate

Mon, 28 Sep 2020 08:00:15 GMT

I’m worried about the planet, are you?

From hurricanes to fires, to heatwaves and cold spells, it’s become increasingly difficult to avoid the very real issue of climate change, the consequences of which are devastating communities across the world.

We are really good at avoiding issues when the repercussions of them don’t feel like they are directly affecting us. However, climate change impacts everyone.

So what do we make of all of this?

It can feel very daunting, but little tweaks we make in our everyday routine can make a big impact. So start small – your dollar is your vote for change.

Shopping small is always a sustainable option. But big brands are making waves as well. I am so proud of the brands we work with for doing their part. Boll & Branch prioritizes the planet through the entire production process. They ship their materials, instead of flying them in, and source organic cotton, which does away with harmful pesticides. Amazon has launched a 2 Billion Dollar Climate Pledge Fund. I of course recognize that fast fashion and larger companies take a toll, but these businesses are also trying to make a difference, and for that I am thankful.

In addition to all of this, I have rounded up 10 of my favorite little ways to make a big difference. Let’s do this together.

Every little thing counts, and collectively we can work towards change.

Feature Image sourced from here

Why You’re Always Tired At Work

Mon, 31 Aug 2020 08:00:52 GMT

It’s 2 p.m. and all I want to do is put on my pajamas and curl up in bed.

For the first few weeks of feeling this way, I chalked it up to Covid-19. The underlying stress and anxiety of a global pandemic are certain to cause some unwanted and unforeseen changes in our mental health. But as someone who has always had a WFH {work from home} job, I have really started to see some major red flags with my productivity and energy levels when it comes to getting my work done.

In many ways the lower production effect has been great for my life. Before my work fatigue I often found myself sitting at the desk for 20-40 hours a week which wasn’t productive either. After all, my job is to create content and share my life, not sit behind the desk all day. But lately I have been feeling so incredibly exhausted the moment I sit behind my desk that it’s resulted in e-mails being saved in a “To Reply” folder that I’ll get to later and an editorial calendar that isn’t flushed out. While I used to plan my content out month’s in advance, I’m not writing a blog post a day or two before it’s “live” date. Again, it’s the not the worst thing ever, but it’s also starting to somewhat bother me.

I am not a lazy person!

After doing a deep dive on the internet, researching the causes of what they call “work fatigue,” I came across a few interesting points that I wanted to share. I know many of you are also working from home and may be feeling similarly. And while some of us {hand raised} are used to WFH life, for a lot of you this lifestyle is still very new. But I wanted to point out that you aren’t just tired at work because work is now at home. And because work fatigue can quickly lead to burnout, it’s important to better understand how and why you may feel this way and learn how to handle it.

Understand Your Productivity Curve

Firstly, it’s important for us to all understand when we can perform work at our best. The beauty of working from home for many of us is that we don’t have a set schedule which can really open up room for improvement. Are you most productive first thing in the morning at 8 a.m. or are you more of a night owl? Before I had a child, I was a huge night owl and would get a big surge of creative energy around 5 p.m. Lately, I can barely keep my head up past 1 p.m. I now aim to get big chunks of my work done before noon and schedule any calls during that time too so I’m alert, focused and ready to rock.

Not Enough Sleep?

It’s a pretty obvious thing to say that if you are feeling fatigued it’s because you aren’t getting enough sleep. But the question to truly ask right now is if you are getting good quality sleep. I go to bed at 11 p.m. every night but I sleep as light as a feather. Even the slightest sound and I jump out of bed like a crazy person. The CDC has declared a lack of sleep a public health epidemic! If you allow yourself one or two nights of logging in some extra Zzz’s, it should make a great improvement on your work fatigue.

You Are Burned Out

Job burnout, or just being “over” your job isn’t really a medical diagnosis. However, many experts believe that other underlying conditions such as physical or emotional exhaustion can lead to feelings of loss of personal identity. Many people who experience symptoms of job burnout don’t believe their jobs are the main cause. Whatever the cause, job burnout can affect your physical and mental health. Consider how to know if you’ve got job burnout and what you can do about it.

What To Do

Work fatigue can lead to poor decision making, lower productivity and even injury. It can have a very real effect on your work and workplace {home!}. A few key take aways on how to handle:

Consider a shift if your schedule. Pay attention to what time and days you feel most productive. If possible, strive to take two consecutive days off each week.
Have an honest conversation with yourself and/or your superior about balancing your workload to set realistic expectations. We are in unprecedented times and most employers will be very understanding and flexible.
Take a look at your workplace atmosphere. Do you have a designated office space? Even if it means working from the kitchen table, be sure to have a designated work space that feels nice and cool with minimal noise and vibrations.
Do you best to log in some extra sleep. Whether it means turning off Netflix an hour earlier or asking your spouse to take the nightshift with your little ones, it’s extra important to allow your mind, body and soul to get some rest right now.

Please note: I’m not a doctor! Please check with your healthcare professional if you are struggling greatly with sleep deprivation or depression.

The Secret for Good Sleep

Fri, 28 Aug 2020 08:00:31 GMT

Lately I haven’t been sleeping too well.

A good night’s sleep is essential for most everything, but especially so if you’ve got a toddler to chase after. It’s recommended to get at least 7 hours of sleep, but I think there’s a difference between sleep and good sleep. I’ve been doing some research, and here are some tips to get your best sleep:

Do you have any sleep tips? I’d love to hear them!

Your Family Questions, Answered

Fri, 14 Aug 2020 08:00:26 GMT

Picking back up on a popular series that we started on Instagram.

We’ve divided up your frequently asked questions in to sections. I started with Fashion questions and I’m now moving on to Family! Please feel free to ask more in the comments!

Do you think you and Grant will have another child? – Caryle

You know, I’m not really sure at this point. There are days where I cannot imagine a life without more baby June’s running around the yard and then there are days where we are very thankful and happy for our family of three. I really can’t answer that at the moment.

Did vital proteins work for post-partum hair loss? – Samantha M

These He Shou Wu vitamins worked for me but be sure to talk to your doctor before starting anything new.

Favorite toys? – Molly P

June is growing so quickly that it truly varies and changes monthly. If you check this page you can find my updates on family life where I include things that June is liking. I also update my Baby Favorites list on Amazon in real time.

Where is Grant from? – Shannon P

He is from Los Angeles, CA.

How did you know you wanted to marry Grant? – Jasmine H

I knew that Grant was the best person for me to spend my life with because he helps me to become the best version of myself in any situation or scenario. I honestly feel that if I had to select someone in the world to talk for me or on my behalf that Grant would be the best possible person. He is also just a better person than I am overall. His incredible patience is really great for my fiery spirit. He also makes me laugh every single day.

Have you brought your nanny back since Covid hit? – Becki G

Yes! We absolutely love our nanny and didn’t have her for the first few month’s of Covid. Her daughter has an auto-immune disorder so she is extremely safe and so are we. She is now back full-time.

Is Grant an employee of your business? – Bronwyn K

Yes! He has a few other things that he works on, but he’s now full time at Damsel Inc.

How’s motherhood going? – Madeleine D

It’s better than anything I could have ever imagined. While it’s the biggest challenge of my life at times, it’s also the greatest reward.

How do you memory keep for June? Journal? Baby book? – Mariana L

I continue to print photo books every 6 months using Artifact Uprising. I’ve also been documenting my time on the blog.

What kind of car seat does June have and do you like it? – Kara

We have the Clek Foonf and I absolutely love it. It’s narrow enough to fit three in a row in the back seat and sits high so that June can see out the window. It’s also flame retardant free: tailored in 100% Merino wool to help naturally regulate the child’s body temperature keeping them cool in the hot summer. It allows rear facing for longer (up to 40 lbs).

What shoes does grant like? – Mackey V

He really loves his Golden Goose sneakers we got in Italy last year. He also loves Common Projects.

What is your favorite thing about June right now? – Delaney V

She is learning to talk so when you ask her things she can respond. Communicating with her is melting my heart.

Why do you play Mexican music to June? It’s hilarious – Angelica L

Ha! I play all sorts of music around the house. From classical, jazz, country and rap to world, opera and oldies. I’m a daughter to a music teacher and strongly believe that music can heal, teach and inspire us.

How did you know you were ready to have kids? – Sofia K

I didn’t. But here’s a blog post on “How We Knew It Was Time for Baby”

How would you have named June if she had been a boy? – Nina R

Saving those names just in case we have another baby

Are your parents still married? Do they live in the same place? – Samantha K

I’ve been getting this question a lot and I think it’s because my mom moved to Los Angeles when we had June. My dad lives in Texas and my mom lives here so she can be close to the grandkids. It works for them.

Do you think you’ll get another bully? How are you doing? – Adrianna I

We aren’t going to be getting another dog for a while. It’s just so damn hard to say goodbye. We are also looking forward to traveling more (once Covid heals) and not having that type of responsibility. Maybe when June gets a bit older.

Best neighborhoods in LA for a family? – Becca M

I love Hancock Park, Larchmont, Brentwood, Manhattan Beach…

Will you get a Polly tattoo? -Lin D

Yes!

What resources/advice do you think new/experienced moms need? – Dr. Elizabeth H

To practice self compassion. It’s the hardest thing you can do for yourself but it will help you become a better parent. I also would suggest investing in a self care regime that’s just for you to do. Whether it’s yoga, pilates, therapy, church or anything that you can do that is solely for yourself, just do something to take time for yourself.

Thoughts on the Snoo sleeper? – Sarah J

It wasn’t for me but I hear amazing things about it. I was too worried about it becoming a sleep “crutch.”

Do you have anyone in your family who is hard to deal with? – @lovelookswitheyes

Naw. My family is perfect All jokes aside, yes…. When I’m confronted by a person or situation that is hard to deal with, I imagine and bubble or shield around me and whatever it is that’s bothersome I picture it bouncing back off of me and on to them.

Where do you get June’s solid color ribbed outfits? – Sivan G

They are from Amazon, linking here.

What are your biggest stresses as a mom? – Sheena

Honestly? Just keeping my daughter healthy and safe.

What formula did you use? – Carrie G

Hipp Anti-Reflux

Al Fresco Dining Must Haves

Mon, 20 Jul 2020 08:00:32 GMT

Last week we hosted my in-laws for a birthday dinner at our home.

It was one of the first times since Covid-19 that we have hosted a small dinner party and boy did it open my eyes up to the fact that we need an outdoor dining room set up. Our outdoor area is, for lack of a better word, neglected. When we moved into our house two years ago, we focused most of our energy {and budget} on dressing up the interiors. Now that June loves playing in the backyard, and it’s one of the only “vacation” destinations we’ll be taking this year, I think it’s time to slowly start investing in some nice outdoor furniture, starting with dining.

Hosting dinner parties looks a lot different in 2020 than years past.

For us, it means playing it extra safe by dining al fresco. We do live in Los Angeles where the weather is top notch throughout most of the year. As I venture down the big rabbit hole of outdoor dining options, I thought I’d throw together a post of my favorites. Please leave a comment to share any resources you know of for outdoor dining table. Also, I’d love to hear which is your favorite from my list!

Dining Table & Chairs

The foundation of the outdoor dining setup. This is all dependent on how many people you are hoping to entertain. Outdoor furniture can certainly add up quickly, so I found this more lightweight, affordable option. I also love the idea of having a bench instead of individual chairs.

Linens & Place Settings

This part is so fun. I swear I could look at linens forever. I’m all about mixing and matching napkins, but I truly love having a full set. I think this is a really fun way to add a little color to your tablescape, but I am also all for keeping it neutral if that’s more your speed.

Glassware & Serving

Is anyone else as obsessed with seagrass glassware as I am? It just immediately screams summer if you ask me. Big platters are also key especially when serving things up family style.

Feature Image Sourced from here.

Life with a 17 Month Old

Fri, 17 Jul 2020 08:00:43 GMT

My sweet baby girl is 17 months old and with every week she changes more and more.

It’s really starting to sink in that we have a full blown toddler now (tear). We are slowly starting to transition her fully off of the bottle and it’s kind of making me sad. Some people say she should have already been off the bottle by now, others say to take your time. I say to trust your parenting gut and do what’s best for your baby.

If you scroll down I’ll share a few more new developments and changes that have happened since my last post.

Emotions Are High

Over the past month, June has really started to express herself and push boundaries. Thankfully, since last month, her biting has stopped {phew!}. However she is really testing the waters with how much she can control Grant and I. We do our best to stay very calm during her emotional outbursts and explain to June what is happening in the moment.

“I understand you want to play on the neighbors lawn but we need to play in our own grass. Do you want me to carry you or do you want to walk?

It isn’t 100% working, yet. June will still scream bloody murder as I carry her back to our house during her outbursts, but I do believe in this method and strongly feel that she will eventually understand what is happening.

Sleeping Is Back

We went through a few rough patches over the past few months where June would randomly wake up at 5:45am or have a hard time falling asleep. We stuck to every book I’ve read and used the exact same methods we implemented in the very beginning and thankfully she’s back to being a great sleeper!

June Has A Belly Button

And a nose and ears and eyes and can now do “Head, Shoulders, Knees and Toes!” It’s such a blast watching her learn things in real time!

I’m Raising A Determined Woman

I am very proud to make the announcement that my daughter is going to be a strong, independent, fierce and determined woman. I know this because she is positively confident with whatever she is doing. She literally runs straight for the pool and leaps in without hesitation. If I try to carry her or hold her hand, she pushes me away with great force and screams. She leaps, jumps, runs, tumbles and screams at the top of her lungs. “I’m a woman hear me roaaaaaarrrr!” I am all smiles writing this because I know she is a wild child and I love her for it. There isn’t a thing I want to change about her “wild.” We’re doing everything in our power to keep June curious, adventurous and wild.

She Stopped Eating

For some reason a few weeks ago June lost interest in food. I did a bit of research and learned to divide her food up into options. I use a silicone grip plate and lowered her high chair so her plate is on the table versus the high chair tray. Ever since I did this she’s been eating better than before. I think it’s because she can’t mix her food all up together. It stays categorized so she knows what she likes and wants.

Like Mother Like Daughter

Maybe it’s because we haven’t spent much time in the car lately (thanks Covid). Maybe it’s because she got my inner ear genes (awful motion sickness). Maybe it was just a fluke. But apparently June gets car sick – she got it from her mama. I’m hoping it was just a one time thing on the winding road to Lake Arrowhead but June threw up all over on the way home and on the way there her lips turned blue. Poor girl.

Do you have children? How old are they? Please share what you are experiencing these days!

My Al Fresco Dinner

Thu, 16 Jul 2020 08:00:36 GMT

I had hit a big cooking rut.

I love cooking! In fact, it’s my only true “alone time” I really get during my day. Grant and I both work from home together and are either working or watching over June. So, every day at around 5 or 5:30pm, Grant takes June outside to play in the yard while I play in the kitchen. I turn on some tunes, find my groove and get to cooking!

But as we enter our…6th? month of dealing with Covid (has it been six months?) I have definitely hit a wall with my cooking. I always make the same thing and it’s gotten quite boring. When Grant invited his parents over for a birthday dinner, al fresco style, I dug up some new recipes to try from my good friend “What’s Gaby Cookin.”

Firstly, I have to share that I see Gaby three times a week. She’s one of my real life friends that you don’t always see on my feed. I do not have enough nice things to say about this amazing person. Gaby is incredibly optimistic, funny and such a joy to be around. Her energy also bleeds into her recipes. We love, love her oils and spices from her William Sonoma Collection. Also her bloody mary mix is the best I’ve ever had {yes, ever!}.

I don’t know why it’s taken me this long to actually try out one of her recipes {embarrassing} but boy am I glad I did! I’ve also included my Mom’s simple salmon recipe below that was a home run at our dinner too. Each recipe is linked below the pictures.

Vegetarian Mezze Platter

Peach Tomato Caprese

Spicy Garlic Green Beans

Mom’s Salmon Recipe:

Pre-heat oven to 400F.

Drizzle olive oil over baking sheet and place salmon on top. Drizzle olive oil on salmon and season with Gaby’s Go To Blend + Garlic Salt + a little pepper + Capers, lots of capers but not too much of the juice. Place a slice of butter on top of each piece of salmon.

Spread spinach and tomatoes around the edges of the salmon and add a hearty amount of olive oil {so they don’t dry out} and salt for seasoning. Lots of salt.

Set aside some tomatoes and spinach to decorate the plate with later.

Bake for 20 minutes

As soon you take salmon out, you can add a little more butter to the top.

Serve on a pretty dish and enjoy!

We’re Remodeling Our Kitchen

Wed, 01 Jul 2020 08:00:04 GMT

Without doing anything too dramatic, such as moving walls or cabinets, we have finally pulled the trigger on remodeling our kitchen.

This is something we’ve wanted to do since we first moved into our home 2 years ago. It isn’t that we didn’t like our kitchen, but I wanted to love the space. It’s easily the room we spend the most time in as a family {especially since quarantine}.

My biggest grievance has always been the pulls and knobs. I don’t love the clear plexiglax. It doesn’t match the rest of our home and felt cheapy to me. Grant’s biggest issue was the tile on the floors. I knew that if we dug into remodeling our floors that it would open a big ‘ole can of worms. I started to put together inspiration boards and pull materials with the idea of painting and reflooring. I was also starting to get in way over my head so we picked up the phone and called our amazing interior designer, Martha Mulholland.

Martha brilliantly suggested that rather than moving away from our existing tile, to select colors and materials to compliment it. She challenged us by saying “if we paint and redecorate and don’t touch the tile and you still hate it after we’re done, then we can discuss retiling.”

Boy am I glad we listened. We’re already loving all of the changes that are being made and if you follow on Instagram you may have noticed a few sneak peeks. But before we share our big before/after reveal, I wanted to share a few insights from the design process along with the amazing concepts that Martha created for us.

I will be sharing a FULL kitchen post in the next several weeks. We are still waiting for some art to return from the framer and one more light fixture before we are “done.”

Product in feature image: Lamp from Lulu & Georgia, Basket from Nickey Kehoe, Wooden Stool from Nickey Kehoe, Pitcher is Vintage, Salt Keeper from Amazon (or William Sonoma)

Martha gave us two options to select from and below you will find Scheme One. I was immediately drawn to the bold colors in the rug and absolutely loved the counter stools. My only hesitation and reason why we ended up passing on this option was because it was a little too bold for my liking. The other rooms in our downstairs are very eclectic and feature wallpaper, deep green in the dining room and vibrant rug choices. I wanted the kitchen to feel a bit softer and more feminine (more like my pamper room upstairs).

We ended going with the below option, Scheme Two. The minute we got the beautiful rug in I knew it was the best choice. I won’t be sharing all of the sources to the products that Martha pulled for us in this post to protect her creative privacy. However once our final kitchen is revealed I’ll be sure to link to everything we selected. I am so so excited to share more soon!

Which scheme is your favorite?

The Easiest Pancake Recipe on the Planet

Mon, 29 Jun 2020 22:47:16 GMT

Are you ready for your mind to be blown?

1 banana

2 eggs

Use a fork to whisk, whisk, whisk, and push, push, push until the consistency is like a batter. Use a small spoon to evenly distribute mini pancakes on to a pan and cook just as you would an omelette (about 3 minutes on each side). Be careful when you flip and consider using two spatulas.

VOILA! Best pancakes ever. You’ll thank me later.

Ways to Commemorate During Quarantine

Mon, 22 Jun 2020 08:00:55 GMT

There have been many celebrations and many sorrows during our time in quarantine.

Most recently, we lost our sweet pup Polly to a 2 year battle with cancer. Polly was 11.5 years old and if you follow us closely on Instagram you know that she put up a wonderful fight. I’ve been meaning to write a post about Polly. To be honest, I’m still at a loss and we are still grieving. While Grant and I are sadly familiar with this type of loss, I’m still not ready to write about it quite yet.

What I’d like to do instead of writing a long post about Polly and how much she meant to us, because that’s kind of a downer during an already sad time for everyone, is share a blog post about ways we can honor loved ones.

Whether it’s a birthday celebration or the loss of a furry friends, it’s more important now than ever before that we honor the important people in our lives. It can sometimes feel very challenging to hold some sort of service or throw a big birthday party {it’s flat out unrealistic for many of us}, but there are still a few ways to work around the system and make things feel special.

Hold Ceremony

The other day I was thinking about how we coped with the loss of William (Polly’s brother) many, many years ago. The most helpful thing Grant and I did when we lost William was to hold a ceremony in his honor. I think one of the harder aspects of losing a pet is that it almost seems silly to most people to have a funeral of sorts. Grant and I said a few nice words about William and then decided to both get “W” tattoos in his honor. It truly made us both feel so much better knowing we had celebrated his honor in this way.

Whether it’s planting a tree, visiting a beach to say a few words or even having a nice family dinner to walk down memory lane – holding some sort of ceremony really does the heart wonders. Because we aren’t able to get Polly tattoos quite yet {because of quarantine}, I’ve been wearing my Monica Rich Kosann locket. I received this locket as a gift after June was born and it has a picture of my two girls inside.

Throw a Party

Okay so you can’t have dozens of people over… but maybe you can have one or two friends over and keep a safe distance. What we did for Grant’s 40th birthday was spread out visitors over the course of one week. A few friends came on a Saturday and then a few different friends on a Monday. Honestly it was kind of like a nice week-long of celebrating and actually getting to connect with friends on a deeper level.

Make it Special

It’s very easy for all of us to say “it won’t count” and bury our heads in the quarantine sand.

Now is the time, more than ever, that we should be celebrating life!

Try your best to make the best of any birthday or special occasion. In fact, birthdays and anniversaries should feel extra extra special! For Grant’s 40th I emailed forty of his closest friends and family members to request 2-3 sentences of “why we love Grant.” I printed them all out and {funny enough} taped them up in the bathroom on the morning of his birthday. It started his day off on the right foot – with lots of laughter and warmth in his heart.

Home-Made Everything

I’ve taken a deep dive back into my arts and crafts side during quarantine and I’m secretly loving it. Hand-made cards, pictures that June scribbled and printing out photos for albums have been truly meaningful during this dark time. I’ve resorted back to snail mail for relatives too. The most meaningful gift I received over the past 4 months was a scribbly picture that June drew {with help from dad} for me for Mother’s Day.

Make it Tangible

So much of our lives are digital. When William passed away, I made an entire photo album on Artifact Uprising. I also did one for Polly most recently and it feels really nice when you get it in the mail. It’s almost like having this incredibly meaningful piece of them right there in your home with you. I have the Artifact Uprising app on my phone which makes it super easy to upload photos. I’ve also used their service to print out photos of June which I mail to my Meme in Texas.

Have you held a birthday during quarantine? What did you do to make it special? How have you coped with the loss of someone special and what are you doing to honor their name?