Waking Up to Narcissism

Was it narcissistic abuse, or were you the problem? Why does the fog lift after a divorce, and you still can't trust your own judgment? In this second live therapist Q&A, moderated by Tony's daughter Sydney, almost every question came from someone in the middle of something: a divorce after ten years of marriage, an only child clearing out her late mom's house, a man text...

When someone you love tells you, “Something you did hurt me,” what happens inside of you next? Do you become curious about what it was like to be on the receiving end of you, or does your brain immediately start building the case for why you did what you did, what you meant, what they misunderstood, and what they did first? That difference may quietly shape almost everything ...

What do you do when you finally have language for your in-law's emotional immaturity (or dare I say narcissistic behaviors) — and your spouse, the one who grew up with it, doesn't see it yet. Do you tell them? Do you go directly to your in-law? In his first live Q&A in a year, Tony takes on one of the most painful positions a partner can be in: watching your spouse work s...

Emotional maturity takes the long way home, and Homer's Odyssey has been quietly showing the way for 2,800 years. Underneath Christopher Nolan's new adaptation sits a poem that Tony Overbay, LMFT, thinks is one of the best pieces of therapy literature ever written, yet almost nobody reads it that way. The monsters aren't the point — they're the muse. Every obstacle Odysseus meet...