The Virtual Couch

Was it narcissistic abuse, or were you the problem? Why does the fog lift after a divorce, and you still can't trust your own judgment? In this second live therapist Q&A, moderated by Tony's daughter Sydney, almost every question came from someone in the middle of something: a divorce after ten years of marriage, an only child clearing out her late mom's house, a man text...

When someone you love tells you, “Something you did hurt me,” what happens inside of you next? Do you become curious about what it was like to be on the receiving end of you, or does your brain immediately start building the case for why you did what you did, what you meant, what they misunderstood, and what they did first? That difference may quietly shape almost everything ...

Anxious-avoidant attachment, emotionally immature in-laws, panic attacks, and what if the unicorn has rabies? Tony tackles his first live Q&A in a year, where you’ll hear answers to these questions and many more. Recorded live with daughter Sydney moderating, Tony takes real questions from real listeners: what happens when you spot narcissistic traits in your spouse's pa...

Emotional maturity takes the long way home, and Homer's Odyssey has been quietly saying so for 2,800 years. Underneath Christopher Nolan's new adaptation sits a poem that Tony thinks is one of the best pieces of therapy literature ever written, and almost nobody reads it that way. The monsters aren't the point — they're the muse. Every obstacle Odysseus meets is asking whethe...