Research shows that the quality of our lives is dependent on the quality of our relationships. I have learned a lot over the past seven years of coaching clients on difficult relationships and in divorce situations, and today I’m sharing with you my top ten tips for having a better, more fulfilling relationship. They’re simple, and yet so many of us overlook these tools. Let’...

Sione and I have been married four years. That seems like such a short time, and yet, I can hardly remember life without him in it. We have had so much to learn about ourselves and about each other and about our relationship, and as always, all of those are constantly evolving. In this podcast Sione joins me in talking about some of the big ah-ha’s we have had this last year ...

Humans are wired for connection but our primitive, protective brain often sabotages intimacy, making marriage hard. Each partner brings a personal “story” (adaptive behaviors from childhood) that feels true but can trap us in defensive patterns. Real partnership asks both people to own and clean up their stories, offer grace, and create a safe space for vulnerability. When tw...

Never let a problem to be solved be more important than a person to be loved.”  Problems and familiar processes trigger our primitive brain to rush for quick fixes, but those dopamine hits often cost us relationships. What if we touched base with love first? Slowing down to validate feelings, question our need to be right, and notice resistance to different processes rew...