There are parts of our selves that we hide because we are ashamed, we are fearful of exposure, and we are guilty and desire to avoid accountability. These motivations lead to estrangement not only from others but from our ego self which we put forward for other people to see. After a while we forget about the parts of ourselves which we have disowned but they have a way of leaking out from time to time much to our chagrin and horror.

In my psychotherapy sessions this is a common scenario:

Client describes the situation sometimes for 10, 15, 20 minutes.

I say, "What do you make of that?"

They say, "I don't know."

I say, "I know you don't think you know, because you have come here to talk about it to try to sort it out, but I think you do know."

There is a pause and then they tell me.

I think to myself, "You don't need a weatherman to know which way the wind blows."

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 Many studies show that talking to strangers is good for mental health and well being. Talking to strangers provides a sense of connection with others which is a skill in spiritual intelligence.

In psychotherapy self determination theory is an underlying understanding of what makes people tick. It helps the therapist and the client to understand what motivates the clients to engage in psychotherapy. Often the initial motivating factors are extrinsic, but as the client becomes engaged in the process hopefully the motivation becomes intrinsic.

 Cinema Therapy has a great video about movies about happy marriages.

This clip shows Julia Child sharing with her husband that she would like to find something to do that she loves. At first he tells her she should make hats, but then he asks, "What do you really like to do?" and she says, "Eat."

 The term "walking well" is often used to refer to individuals who do not have a serious mental health condition, but who seek mental health services for a variety of reasons such as stress, relationship issues, work-related problems, or personal growth. These individuals may be experiencing some distress or difficulty in their lives, but they are generally functioning well and able to carry out their daily activities.

Some people use the term "walking worried" or "worried well" to describe this population as well. The term "walking well" has been criticized by some mental health professionals because it can be seen as stigmatizing and dismissive of the real struggles that these individuals may be facing. It is important to remember that seeking mental health services is a sign of strength and self-awareness, and anyone who feels they could benefit from therapy should feel comfortable seeking it out regardless of their level of distress.

 "This Is Where I Leave You" is a 2014 American comedy-drama film directed by Shawn Levy and based on the novel of the same name by Jonathan Tropper.

The movie revolves around the Altman family, who reunite for their father's funeral and spend seven days sitting shiva (a Jewish mourning tradition) together in their childhood home. The family consists of four adult siblings: Judd (played by Jason Bateman), Wendy (played by Tina Fey), Paul (played by Corey Stoll), and Phillip (played by Adam Driver), as well as their mother Hillary (played by Jane Fonda).

During the seven-day shiva, old conflicts and secrets arise between family members as they deal with their grief and struggles in their personal lives. Judd, who has just discovered his wife is having an affair with his boss, is particularly struggling and is also dealing with the loss of his father. Wendy is dealing with her unhappy marriage and the stress of being a mother to two young children. Paul is struggling with the pressures of running his father's business, and Phillip is struggling with his own relationship issues.

Throughout the film, the characters confront their past, their relationships with each other, and the reality of their present lives. They all have to come to terms with their own issues and find a way to move forward, both as individuals and as a family.

The film is a poignant and often humorous exploration of family dynamics, grief, and the complexities of relationships. It features a talented ensemble cast, including some of the biggest names in comedy, and is both heartwarming and thought-provoking.

Families are messy and life is not easy. Grief in families sometimes leads to regression as family members revert back to old roles and rules whichl the key event, the death of a significant family member, throws the family system into disequilibrium which will eventually restabilize for better or worse after the loss.

What are the key losses in your family system over your life history and what have been the changes in family functioning since? Families can be reactive or they can be responsive to the loss. Reactivity often leads to a deterioration in functioning while responsiveness can contribute to enhanced functioning.

Families can reorganize as a new person steps in to play the leadership role or they can disorganize and die. The Altman family reorganizes in a positive way even with the significant changes that have occurred. They all eventually step forward to evolve their relationships to new and enhanced levels of functioning in spite of the multiple traumas.

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This is Where I Leave You as of 03/11/23 is streaming on Netflix.

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In any given year, suicide accounts for between 60-65% of all gun deaths in the United States (approximately 25,000). So far, three states have passed legislation called Donna's Law, which would allow people who fear that they may become suicidal to place themselves (voluntarily and confidentially) on a "do not sell" list, to block their purchase of a gun. Correspondent Susan Spencer looks at an innovative way to save lives. [If you or someone you know is in crisis, get help from the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988.]

There was a 65% reduction in sick days, and a 57% fall in the number of staff leaving participating companies, compared to the same period the previous year. Company revenue barely changed during the trial period -- even increasing marginally by 1.4% on average.

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Editor's note - Productivity does not depend on hard or how long you work but on how smart you work. The "work" often expands to the amount of time allocated and expected rather than outcomes and deliverables.