In Your Right Mind with Monique Rhodes

You've never actually felt most of your feelings. You've had positions about them instead. If you can be in real distress at a dinner party and still get up and clear the plates while nobody notices a thing, this episode explains what you learned to do, what it's been costing you, and the one word you'll have to stop using.

There's a kind of terror that isn't about the bad news. It's about not knowing yet. If you're standing in your own life waiting for somebody to walk in and tell you what happens next, this one's for you. Your body finds the not knowing more expensive than the bad news, and once you know that, there's somewhere different to put your effort.

Somebody asked how you were this week and you said fine, and you said it beautifully, because you've had a lot of practice. Then later something hot and resentful came up in you, pointed straight at them for not knowing. This episode is about that loop, including the half of it nobody ever admits, and the one sentence that quietly breaks it.

You heard your own voice come out sharper than the situation deserved, and you've been quietly worried ever since that this is who you're becoming. It isn't. Irritability is the first thing to go when there's no space left in your life, and in this episode we look at what your temper is actually telling you, why it always lands on the people closest to you, and the one minute...

You know the people who walk into a room and everyone in it sits up a little straighter, and somewhere along the way you decided you're just not one of them. This episode takes that decision apart. Dolly Parton spent sixty years making people feel bigger rather than smaller, and when you look closely at how she actually did it, it isn't a personality at all. It's a handful of...