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I was recently interviewed by Jeff Kahn on his programme The Best of Life, Love and Fruit Salad on Zone Radio, our local community radio station here in Cape Town. We talked about Parental Alienation, specifically the reality of what happens when children are used as weapons in high-conflict divorce. It is a topic I care about […]

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An authoritative parenting perspective on belongings, boundaries and building resilience through separation When parents separate or divorce, whether amicably or through high conflict, decisions are often made quickly in the name of practicality, peacekeeping or emotional survival. One of the most common of these decisions is this: the child moves between homes with only the ...

When a Child’s Anger Is Not “Bad Behaviour” There is a particular kind of pain a child carries silently. It is the pain of being caught between two parents during a high-conflict divorce and worse, being coached, manipulated or emotionally coerced to reject one of the people they love most in the world. This process …

The ground shifted this week. A legal presumption that for a decade nudged judges towards parental contact has been taken away in the United Kingdom. What feels to some like a needed course correction feels to others like a boat pulled out from under fragile swimmers. This is not a story about law alone. It …

There is a common myth woven into modern love stories that conflict can be soothed by passion, that angry words can be silenced by urgent touches and that the sting of disagreement can dissolve in the heat of a bed sheet. We call it “make up sex”. It is portrayed as proof of love, a …