Shrink For The Shy Guy

You know the techniques. You've read the books. You can recite the scripts. In the moment, none of it shows up. The standard boundaries advice has been missing the question that fires underneath every boundary moment: am I allowed to ask for this?

In this episode, Dr. Aziz walks through why most boundaries advice fails high-functioning people who already know the techn...

You did the bold thing. You went through with it. It even went well. So why isn't the doubt gone? Why does the next meeting, the next date, the next big moment still produce the same anxiety?

In this episode, Dr. Aziz unpacks why get out of your comfort zone and face your fears is incomplete advice that's been failing high-functioning people for years. The exposures ar...

Right before a date, an interview, or a family gathering, someone tells you to just be yourself. Has that ever actually helped? For most of the people Dr. Aziz works with, it's done the opposite.

In this episode, Dr. Aziz explains why be yourself and be authentic fail as guidance, even though they're pointing at something real. The map they hand you is no map at all, s...

"In those situations, it's not being defensive. It's defending myself. And those are two very different things. And one is actually extremely necessary and healthy."

Someone says something to you that's out of line. You say nothing. Not because you don't have a response, but because the line I don't want to be defensive has functioned as a gag order for the last twenty...

Someone asks you for something. The word no forms in your head. What comes out of your mouth is yes.

In this episode, Dr. Aziz breaks down why just say no more never quite works. There's a specific pattern running underneath the guilt and the override, and the standard get better boundaries advice doesn't reach the layer where it lives. He also names the pattern he him...