Andreas NLP

Often people are told to “just let go” of hate, anger or resentment. (This implies that hate is a physical “thing” that can be held onto, rather than a feeling. Usually what is being “held onto” is not the feeling, but the image, sound or voice that elicits the feeling.) However useful that advice might be, it doesn’t tell the person how to do it, leaving them no bet...

I have an article in the current issue of Psychotherapy Networker about working with a client who had been terrorized and immobilized by a doctor’s “death sentence” pronouncement about her health. My main outcome was to reduce her...

Overcoming Overwhelm

All of us experience overwhelm at times. When there is too much happening at once, it is hard to focus on what we need to pay attention to. The resulting confusion and frustration can easily “boil over” into yelling, grumpiness, or other behaviors that create even more to deal with! Another phrase for this is “sensory overload.”...

Milton Erickson — probably the greatest therapist who ever lived — described an interaction with a woman who had been in therapy with him for some time:

“This woman came in this morning, and she said, “I’ve got a very bad sinus. I know this is correct. My face is aching, and my face is hot. I’ve got a horrible headache. And I don’t think I have been behaving very we...

Recently I was exasperated by someone who didn’t keep what I thought was an agreement between us. But “Exasperation” doesn’t fully express the intensity of the confusion and disorientation I felt when that happened, so I decided to explore it using Andy Austin’s Meta...